Here’s what the criticism actually did. Young girls and boys, say the age group of 16 to 21 instantly liked the bold video. But as the senior feminists poured in the nuanced criticism, they felt confused, even embarrassed. They were quiet downed. Then, the men joined the criticism. Personal attack against Deepika Padukone started questioning her credibility as a voice for feminism. Everybody forgot who the real enemy was. As researchers and activists we have to be more careful about how we react to this new branch of social activism or commentary by CSR trusts. Let’s encourage them, engage with them, enable them to make better products. But let’s not be aggressive and negative.
Today I find a deep emotional and personal connect with Arvind Kejriwal and therefore I stand with him. I have been through this exact kind of situation in my life and have faced the same allegations that Kejriwal is being charged with. I had once started a business start up with a great idea and […]
The Singer sewing machine is a cultural symbol from a bygone era. Every woman or man has their own memory and story around the Singer machine. My mom’s story begins when at the age of 11 she lost her mother. The sound of her mother working on the singer sewing machine till late night, when […]
I read this wonderful list of ’10 things feminism ruined for me’ by Emer O’Toole on the Guardian. The point she made was that once you wear your feminist glasses, you would struggle to appreciate the simpler pleasures of life. This made me sit down and prepare my own list of things that feminism has ruined for me.
This is also a time for India to learn a lesson. #PakSchoolSiege is a reminder of what happens when religion fucks up th mind. Stop all religious propaganda including #Hindutva. We don’t need #IslamicState or #HinduRashtra. We Need Secular nation. All religious extremists dangerous: Hindu/Muslim/Christians. The lesson is to control religious forces, uphold the secularism guaranteed in the Constitution
In my previous post, I was wondering if Aamir Khan is brave enough to take up the issue of LGBT rights in the 3rd episode of Season 3 of Satyamev Jayate. Turned out he is indeed that brave. The topic was homosexuality and freedom of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community from the discriminatory law […]
A journalist called asking if Dr. T is in office. I said, “no he is traveling, would be available only by 16th.” “Oh, but I wanted to ask him if he has Kailash Satyarthi’s number.” I didn’t get the name at first go. “Kailash who?” I asked. “Kailash Satyarthi,” he replied. “Is he someone known […]
Mardaani is just the kind of film I always wanted to see – a film with complete gender role reversals. The hundreds of movies I’ve watched in my lifetime, I’ve always wondered how would it be if we changed the gender of the leading characters? In Mardaani, that’s exactly what I have. As a film […]
TEDxITMU I was recently invited as a speaker at TEDxITMU, the TEDx event at the Institute of Technology and Management University, Gurgaon. I shared the stage with a range of very interesting speakers like, Actor Vipin Sharma (of Taare Zameen Par fame), Delhi FM station Hit 95’s popular RJ Suroshree Dasgupta, Jazz musician duo Adil […]
This blog is back in action with its original content, feelings and emotions from the bottom of my heart, bare truth for the world to read. I spent all of 2010 and 2011 so far worrying over the fact that everybody who knew me in real life, all the friends, the family members, colleagues, read […]
I don’t know if its a coincidence or not but I happen to write whenever it pours unexpectedly and beautifully in the National Capital. And these writings always come in mind while I am coming home from work. In 2005, I used to work in Nehru Place, I thought of this post while sitting in […]
“People move on, get hurt, come back and find me there still.” On reconnecting with a man who used to have a crush on me a decade ago. He still remembers the crush. Told him I was always just a text away. There is nothing worse than two lonely friends not connecting with each other. It […]
Around 7 years ago I stumbled upon, for the first time, an unimportant never heard before film critique called Raja Sen on Rediff. It was his review of Taare Zameen Par and it made me furious. I found him being nasty and nitpicky to a film as good as TZP just for the heck of […]
The stories and videos turning the Rothak sisters who fought back in the bus are quite hilarious shows…! Men in Haryana are now scared to go to college because of two girls…Wow! People of Haryana did a great job of uniting against girl power, how could they have risked their son’s future by allowing some […]
Indian Prime Minister recently claimed that in ancient times there must have been a plastic surgeon who fixed elephant head on human body and thus Lord Ganesha was created. By that logic, all such hybrid creatures worshiped as Gods in various other civilizations like Greek, Roman and Egyptian are also results of plastic surgeries. Does that mean all civilizations had equally advanced technology? Or did they come to India to get surgeries done?
Feminists for some reason were very excited about the marriage between actor George Cloony and acclaimed international lawyer Amal Alamuddin. While the global media carried headlines that Cloony marries Alamuddin, the headlines on The Business Woman were ‘Internationally acclaimed barrister Amal Alamuddin marries an actor’. It was seen as a marriage of equals and unlike […]
What is the topic of the next episode? It cannot possibly be homosexuality can it? Aamir Khan is not that brave yet. Or is he?
Self styled censorship and moral policing on TV just boils my blood. The other day they censored the word ‘sex’ and blurred out a woman’s cleavage in the film Queen. On VH1 they routinely censor the most harmless everyday language and scenes. In a song by Maroon 5 (Maps) they blurred out the face of […]
As a society we have made progress to the point that we accept women in traditional men’s role, but not the vice versa. So we now have modern parents who’d say “I would raise my daughter as a son” but you’d never hear someone saying, “I’d raise my son as a daughter.” Modern Indian women’s aspiration is not to shed traditional gender roles but to acquire new un-gendered roles. So while women are working and perhaps taking higher position than their husbands, they are still cooking because that remains their domain and that is their expression of love and care. Ability to balance it all is also how modern women are being judged as good mother, good wife. Thus the pressure.
Feminism is the radical notion that women are people with equal rights as men. If you believe in this, you are a feminist. If you don’t get this and you say I am against feminism but I am pro-equality then you are a fucking confused cat against feminism.
News is in that NDA govt is going to dilute the environment rules for projects and in another news, foreign aided NGOs are being labelled as anti development. At one hand govt is likely to flout environment laws to promote industry and on the other hand they are likely to silence any protests by civil societies. What would be the impact of these two news read together on the India’s environment?
What have I got myself into? An online war where Facebook is taking sides with my enemy and punishing me arbitrarily. The fight is rather insignificant and juvenile, mere rivalry between the fans of a Bengali TV show Ishti Kutum. But what has been revealed through this is that Facebook is UNFAIR and BIASED. They […]
[In the wake of social media talking about the Burka Avenger I am republishing an article I wrote long back for the Bell Bajao Blog. The article was originally written in the context of France banning the burqa in public places. But it still holds good in the present context. With regard to the show […]
Star Jalsha’s mega serial Ishti Kutum recently bagged several awards at the Star Jalsha Parivaar Awards 2013, including Best Show. A total of 9 out of 17 awards have been won in the mainstream award categories by the show. The leading pair Archi-Baha both got two awards each, which is a record of sorts, Archi […]
Note: This post is about the Bengali TV serial Ishti Kutum. If you are not a follower of the show, please follow the posts on category archives for context. Dear Madam, These days on Star Jalsha, promos of the forthcoming Star Jalsha Parivaar Awards 2013 have started making rounds. In that we see you and […]
Oye Lucky Lucky Oye that Abhay Deol starer film was one of my all-time favourite films. Not anymore for I met a Lucky in my real life. It happened in broad day light at the Hauz Khas – IIT gate traffic signal, opposite to Essex Farm, amidst a heavy Monday evening traffic and right under the nose […]
what is wrong in revealing real identity? And this question is not to media or public but the survivor herself, or the family members in case she is no more. Why do we hide our face and identity in shame in case of rape? We don’t hide in shame in case of murder, theft, robbery, cheating. Then why in case of rape? Shashi Tharoor was right in his tweet where he questioned, “what interest is served by hiding the name?” Really ever wondered what interest? Whose interest?
How does a typical Indian middle class joint family deal with a divorce? With paranoia, hypocrisy double standards and melodrama. As exposed through the story of Ishti Kutum – the Mukherjee family is shattered on hearing the DIVORCE word from Archi. Broken marriage mean different thing for family’s sons and daughters. Ironically, the patriarch of Mukherjee family who is so concerned about Archi’s broken marriage and its effect on his family, have never uttered a single word regarding his own daughter’s estranged marriage. The legal position of both of Archi’s marriages, legal requirement of divorce and validity of Tribal marriage.
This morning when I woke up to the news of her death, suddenly I realized all my thoughts had stopped at me. I could be her, I could be dead. One evening I was there, and then I was dead, because I was a woman, because some men decided to have sex with me by force, because…whatever, point is I am dead.
So before my soul rests in peace, which I doubt is going to be anytime soon, let me ask a few questions to myself, and to all you girls out there
Panchasayar, Garia, one of Asia’s largest housing societies, a cooperative society for the staff of Accounts and General West Bengal and Income Tax Department of West Bengal, is the place where I spent the first 7-8 years of my life. Once upon a time this place was a wet land with just shrubs and bushes […]
On returning to Kolkata, he wrote a heart wrenching piece on Satya the hero and raised a storm. The ordinary people were overwhelmed by the truth of Satya’s life. This man, Archisman Mukherjee today stands in front of a Satyakam who is determined to kill him. What happened, that after everything that Archi did for Satyakam this is how Satya pays back? – Ishti Kutum Analysis – Satya’s patriarchal mindset and mixed up personal and political vendetta.