Man Sent Me Photos Of His Dick – What Happened Next?

That was not a click bait using a shocking headline. A man really did send me photos of his manhood last night.

I have met this man just once in my life in 2011. It was a casual date and we had sex. The date was at his place so I already knew what it ‘really’ was and I just wanted to have some fun. I never met him again but we’ve been connected on social media, and over the last five years he has given me hundreds of booty calls some of which I found amusing, some boring, but none offensive. On my part I have been flirtatious but I was always clear in my head that I don’t want to meet him again. I last WhatsApped him in Jan this year, around my birthday when I was getting worked up about not having enough sex in life. Continue reading

Workshop on Gender Awareness at Ramanujan College, Delhi University

Sanjukta Basu speaking at the Gender Awareness workshop at Ramanujan College, Delhi University

Sanjukta Basu speaking at the Gender Awareness workshop at Ramanujan College, Delhi University

I recently conducted a small workshop on gender awareness at Ramanujan College, Delhi University. The workshop was organized by the college’s Equal Opportunity Cell, along with gender awareness there were talks on personality development. The lecture was attended by about 60-70 undergraduate students of the college from all streams. The workshop went very well due to the students who were very attentive and responsive. These were students from socially and financially marginalized background, yet they were more articulate than the ones I have sometimes met in some of the top colleges I have spoken at. The boys were receptive and understanding of gender discourse. The best moment was when I said,”Gender stereotypes hurt men as much as they hurt women, it is wrong to stereotype boys and men as unemotional, why won’t boys have emotions, don’t they have a heart, don’t they have feelings?” The whole lecture hall burst in an overwhelming roar of clapping. Continue reading

Porn ban in India – mainstreaming of women’s lack of sexual agency

Approximately 800+ pornographic websites suddenly went off the internet in India. There were no prior announcement, discussion, no legal basis to the decision. But that’s not to say it is entirely thoughtless, hell no. The great thought behind is that a ban on porn is going to put an end to rapes in this country.Versace--woman and naked man--various women's 90s

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What is a Sacred Indian Marriage and how Marital Rape may destroy it

Some idiot from the BJP Government recently said that government has no intentions of making marital rape (rape of wife by husband) a criminal offense because marriage in India is so bloody sacred. Oh no, it is not some loony like Saskhi Maharaj making a passing reference at some random event, this is a Minister of State standing inside the Rajya Sabha giving a written reply to a question raised by DMK MP Kanimozhi. Continue reading

Vogue empower

Vogue Empower My Choice: What the criticism actually did to feminism

Update dt 5-Apr-2015: This blog has gone viral, reaching a total of 2.20 lac people through Facebook, over 70,000 page views and over 10,000 Shares. I’ve been blogging for 10 years, and this week all records broke when it received 32,541 page views on a single day. That’s 22 page views every minute. Thank you everybody who shared this post and made it a viral. Special mention of film maker Anurag Kashyap and actor Atul Kulkarni both shared the link on their Facebook pages.

The Vogue Empower video titled ‘My Choice’ featuring Deepika Padukone and 99 other women, from different walks of life, has already taken way too much space than it deserved. And yet, I feel the need to defend it. Allow me to explain why. Continue reading

Aamir Khan Satyamev Jayate 2

Trying to guess the topic of Satyamev Jayate’s Season 3 Epi 3 – Can Aamir be brave enough?

Two new promos have been released for the 3rd episode of Season 3 of Satyamev Jayate. In the first promo we see a man, slightly effeminate, talking about dating in Ajmer being different than dating in Mumbai. Aamir pauses, laughs and then asks, “ek min, Mumbai kaise hota hai pehele yeh bataiye”

The second promo features a person, presumably female because we see long hair but we don’t get to see the face, talking about her realization that her identity was not the same as perceived by people, and how she used to feel like she was in a jail, every minute every second.

I am trying to guess what the topic could be? It cannot possibly be homosexuality can it? Aamir is not that brave yet. Or is he?

With the BJP government in power, which has made it very clear that they are in support of Section 377 of the IPC because, as Rajnath Singh said, “homosexuality is an unnatural act and cannot be supported,” would Aamir take up the issue of LGBT rights? Would he risk being known as someone who is trying to pollute the great Indian culture which never knew this thing called homosexuality until the British or Muslim or some other foreigner brought this western culture to this country? Would he risk being known as the person responsible for polluting young minds and instigating to follow western culture? Would he risk inviting more flak from the right wing fanatics and Sanghis who are busy spreading a smear campaign against the show and men rights activists who are already upset with him for taking up too many women related issues by doing another episode on gender, identity and equality?

Homosexuality still remains the most sensitive topic for the middle class Indians, particularly the self-appointed custodians of Indian culture. Recently Supreme Court recognized transgender as the third gender. Gender dysphoria (the feeling of being trapped in a wrong body) is recognized as a medical problem and sex change has begun to be accepted as a solution to this problem. But homosexuality is still seen as a life style choice that goes against our culture. The issue of homosexuality en-compasses the issues of sexual empowerment of transgender people, people with gender dysphoria, and or any other set of consenting adults who do not identify with hetronormativity. How can we accept these identities without accepting their sexual choices – the way they make love and to whom?

Would Aamir be able to take up these questions and for once establish this on national television that debate around homosexuality is about gender identity, not a fashion or lifestyle choice.

Whether Aamir would be brave enough or not, we would have to wait and watch, this Sunday, 19th October 2014, 11 pm on Star Plus and DD National.

My articles on LGBT issues here

TEDxITMU talk by Sanjukta Basu

My TEDxITMU talk – Have we survived the rape and violence?


I was recently invited as a speaker at TEDxITMU, the TEDx event at the Institute of Technology and Management University, Gurgaon. I shared the stage with a range of very interesting speakers like, Actor Vipin Sharma (of Taare Zameen Par fame), Delhi FM station Hit 95’s popular RJ Suroshree Dasgupta, Jazz musician duo Adil Manuel & Vasundhara Vidalur, Babar Afzal Founder, KashmirINK, Artist Roop Chand and others. Here is the complete list of speakers. Continue reading