It is Time To Stand Up and Stand Tall for the Indian LGBT Community

In 2008 I wrote for then popular collaborative blog,, that the only way for LGBT community to assert their identity and gain recognition is by coming out in large number, show their strength. In July 2009 in an historic judgment Delhi High Court struck down Section 377 of Indian Penal Code, known as the [...]


Man Sent Me Photos Of His Dick – What Happened Next?

A man lying on his bed shagging and sending photos of his dick to a woman he hasn't met or talked to in 5 years Guess what missing here? Consent. He didn't ask me if I was interested in his dick.

Workshop on Gender Awareness at Ramanujan College, Delhi University

Brief note on recently conducted workshop on gender awareness at Ramanujan College, Delhi University.

Porn ban in India – mainstreaming of women’s lack of sexual agency

Global porn industry is worth $97 Billion. It can be safely assumed that many women derive economic independence and sexual agency from this industry. It is absolutely ridiculous to presume that all such women need saving by self-righteous men.

What is a Sacred Indian Marriage and how Marital Rape may destroy it

We wonder what is this sacred marriage and how it would be destroyed if marital rape is recognized as a crime under Indian Penal Code. Here are the main features of sacred Indian marriage.

Vogue Empower My Choice: What the criticism actually did to feminism

Here's what the criticism actually did. Young girls and boys, say the age group of 16 to 21 instantly liked the bold video. But as the senior feminists poured in the nuanced criticism, they felt confused, even embarrassed. They were quiet downed. Then, the men joined the criticism. Personal attack against Deepika Padukone started questioning her credibility as a voice for feminism. Everybody forgot who the real enemy was. As researchers and activists we have to be more careful about how we react to this new branch of social activism or commentary by CSR trusts. Let's encourage them, engage with them, enable them to make better products. But let's not be aggressive and negative.

Trying to guess the topic of Satyamev Jayate’s Season 3 Epi 3 – Can Aamir be brave enough?

What is the topic of the next episode? It cannot possibly be homosexuality can it? Aamir Khan is not that brave yet. Or is he?

My TEDxITMU talk – Have we survived the rape and violence?

TEDxITMU I was recently invited as a speaker at TEDxITMU, the TEDx event at the Institute of Technology and Management University, Gurgaon. I shared the stage with a range of very interesting speakers like, Actor Vipin Sharma (of Taare Zameen Par fame), Delhi FM station Hit 95's popular RJ Suroshree Dasgupta, Jazz musician duo Adil [...]

Shashi Tharoor is right – Reveal rape victim’s name – Kudos to girl’s family for agreeing

what is wrong in revealing real identity? And this question is not to media or public but the survivor herself, or the family members in case she is no more. Why do we hide our face and identity in shame in case of rape? We don’t hide in shame in case of murder, theft, robbery, cheating. Then why in case of rape? Shashi Tharoor was right in his tweet where he questioned, “what interest is served by hiding the name?” Really ever wondered what interest? Whose interest?

That’s it, she died – but did I survive the rape?

This morning when I woke up to the news of her death, suddenly I realized all my thoughts had stopped at me. I could be her, I could be dead. One evening I was there, and then I was dead, because I was a woman, because some men decided to have sex with me by force, because...whatever, point is I am dead. So before my soul rests in peace, which I doubt is going to be anytime soon, let me ask a few questions to myself, and to all you girls out there

Queer (LGBT) pride parade Hyderabad – Police denied permission

Hyderabad Police has denied permission to carry on LGBT Pride Parade in Hyderabad. Every citizen in a democracy has the right to peaceful protest, and here we are not even talking about a protest, this is a Pride March. That one needs permission to be proud of one's identity is weird enough, to deny permission [...]

Demand an apology from makers of Wild Stone Talc TV commercial for being misogynist and homophobic

I have seen many misogynist, sexist and homophobic TV commercials but this one is the most disgusting of them all. First of all the idea of "smell like a man" is lifted from the recently popular Old Spice TVC. So there, absolutely uncreative and unethical advertisement. Secondly it has all the derogatory treatment one can [...]

Pre marital sex with promise of marriage – Delhi high court calls it rape

DNA Reports: The Delhi high court on Monday held that sex without marriage amounted to rape The court rejected pre-arrest bail to a man who repeatedly had sex with a woman but refused to marry her even after their engagement. The woman stayed with her fiancé, Nikhil Prasar, in Mumbai for a few days, “where [...]

Amnesty International asks countries to follow India’s example in Gay Rights

This may be a bit old but I have somehow missed it by far. Soon after the historic judgment of Delhi High Court last year which decriminalized homosexual realtionship amongst consenting adults, the international human rights organisation Amnesty International issued this statement asking remaining remaining countries to follow India's example and de-criminalize homosexuality. To quote [...]

History is created today, Delhi High Court rules being Gay is no longer a crime in India

Writing this in hurry, couldn't have waited. History have been created today in India, this morning Delhi High Court gave its judgment on the petition filed by Naz Foundation challenging the constitutionality of Section 377 of IPC which criminalizes all acts of oral and anal sex between individuals irrespective of age and consent. High Court [...]

Bangalore Queer Pride March’09: A Report

Did anybody see a rainbow today on Bangalore sky? I did as we drove back from Town Hall, the place where the Bangalore Queer Pride Parade concluded and I thought how very symbolic. Queer people in Bangalore, Delhi, Chennai and Bhubaneswar today celebrated their ‘being’ under a rainbow colored flag. Gays, lesbians, kothis, hijras, intersexs, [...]

Queer Pride India 2009: Celebrations in all major cities

‘Greetings from the land of the Sinful Kamasutra’ said Prince Manvendra Singh Gohil while opening the Euro pride 2008 at Stockholm. (Video) But who is he? He was one of the few Indians to be invited to the Oprah Winfrey show, was one of the candidates for Time Magazine’s World Top 100 Most influential People [...]

PG – Mom dad please don’t read this

That was a PG rating for mom and dad coz they both are quite a fan of my blog. These weird thoughts just came to mind, dunno from where - what is this obsession men have with BBWs? Ok wikipedia would inform you BBW = Big Beautiful Women, but c'mon we all know what it [...]

Nationwide Queer Pride March: An Historical event

Last week I wrote a piece on how its time for the queer people to stand up, stand tall and assert their rights. In this context the queer activism in India just witnessed a landmark event, the first ever nation wide Queer Pride March was concluded on Sunday, 29th June 2008. Thousands of gay, lesbians, [...]

New posts on my political blog

There are two new posts on my political blog, This is my mind. "It's time to stand up and Stand tall" is about alternate sexuality. The main idea that I want to convey through the post is that the non heterosexual people, politically called the queer people should come out of their closet and assert their rights.   ... [...]

Good truth v Bad truth: A case of incestuous relationship between Josef Fritzl and his daughter

A horror house, a dungeon with secret chambers, where lived in captivity a family for 24 long years. A tender girl child of 18 year was lured in there on a casual pretext of carrying some stuff, then she was imprisoned leashed, handcuffed, raped and impregnated for 6 times over a period of 24 years. [...]

Mr.Gay India

Mr. Gay contest 2008 results are out. India is not the winner. 33 year old Carlos Fabian Melia from Argentina is. However for the Indian gay community and other gender benders, Indian contestant, 26 year old Mumbai based model Zoltan Parag is no less than a winner. Zoltan may not have won the contest but [...]

Billi Bachao Andolan

Breaking News. Parents in the Indian metropolis seen marching on the street with placards reading, 'billi bachao'1 The main reason of protest is the emerging trends amongst their wards to feed billis with milk, whenever wherever they feel like. They often don't let parents scrutinise the quality or source of the milk. Milk from unreliable [...]

The others

No bisexuals in humans That, is more or less the crux of a post written by Sukumar which again is inspired by another post by Dumaketu. I appreciate the blogger's guts to write about such topic (although I didn’t understand his post one bit), but OH MY GOD what a faulty presumption. I can't even [...]

Conversation with mom

Conversation on Gtalk… (Note mom's typing speed is one 100th of my speed, so I got edge over her while arguing, by the time she frames one argument and types it out I have said 5 more arguments. The conversation was in Bengali am giving the translated version) Me - Mom, when do you plan [...]

Flims of Desire:Sexuality and the Cinematic Imagination

I should have blogged about this film festival coming to Bangalore long time back. This should have been on priority list but for lack of company paid time on internet.   This awesome film festival is being arranged by organisations based in Bangalore and Delhi working on sexuality rights:  CREA (Creating Resources for Empowerment in [...]

Do you have a sexual fantasy?

I happen to know this person through Yahoo Messenger who is married, is a father to a daughter, loves both of them truly but is looking for one night stands without having any strings attached. When asked why such weird desire he says coz he can't ask his wife to fulfill his fantasies. I see [...]